I'd rather be single than use dating apps
Made a new friend yesterday and we somehow started talking about dating. I mentioned that I'm single, so she asked if I was looking.
Had to pause to think about it because being in a relationship has been worse for my mental + physical health than being alone. 😅
That's not to say I'm opposed to it, of course. If it happens, it happens. But realistically speaking, since I barely leave the house these days since I work remotely, using dating apps is my main option for now.
I've tried several apps — OkC, Tinder, Bumble, CMB, even Her — and been to a few dates with different people. Most of them weren't terrible, but they clearly didn't want a partnership or something serious, even if they did state that in their profiles. It's obvious they were lonely, desperate, or both.
I wanted to find a soulmate — a kindred spirit I can learn and grow with and from, someone I can be affectionate with and rely on.
They just wanted a human bandaid.
What I wanted is someone I can trust loves me and has my back; what they needed is a therapist to help them unblock their emotional constipation.
It wouldn't have worked out.
Based on my own experiences as well as my friends': I'd rather be single than try to find something real using these apps.